Steph Schmidt
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Loneliness (Some musings)We don't often talk about the loneliness of motherhood. Or the loneliness of life as a woman on the farm. There was a loneliness to life before we had kids, but there was also a gentle calm and bliss in that alone time - a space to do my own thing in those long hours before he came home. But motherhood, and solo parenting in farming, makes the loneliness different. When I told my husband the other day that I get lonely when I'm home with the kids, he didn't quite understand. How can you be lonely when you are surrounded by these beautiful boys?When the air is filled with noise and chatter and muu-uum and life and laughter and play and bickering.But it's funny, the loneliness comes more in the times between 4pm-8pm - those long, full, noisy hours. Where I never quite seem to have enough hands, or arms, or time, or patience. Once those beautiful boys are fast asleep, the loneliness drifts away as I can potter back to that list of things that are never done. Then my time fills up, and I forget to do those things that I dreamt of earlier in the afternoon. The phone calls to friends, the yoga, the early bedtime to read or sleep - get pushed to the side by dishes, or tidying, or let's face it, a mindless scroll. Maybe it's all part of the journey. Loneliness is just one of those many, many emotions that they don't tell us about in that non-existent school of motherhood. So for now, I'll breathe in and exhale as I sit here listening to the gentle sigh of their breathe as they sleep. Then the dishes are calling my name#motherhood #motherload #ruralmotherhood
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Thanks for talking about it, and giving a insight into your life, Steph. Image: [Steph and two active boys in a landscape with dry looking red soil, some grey-green vegetation and a dam. The water level looks about a metre below ground level. The sky is blue and tree line the horizon.]What's with the Image description? It's a way of making more of a post's context more accessible to more people. Some people process visual information differently, e.g. via screen readers.
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thank you for being open and honest
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